How to Get Him to Put That Ring on Your Finger in 365 Days Or Less!

A few weeks ago, I decided to unveil my upcoming book “How to Get Him to Put That Ring on Your Finger in 365 Days Or Less!” which will be released in a few weeks.

I am so excited by the interest that this book is generating. I receive emails daily, from women readers asking “When is it coming out?” or “How can I get an advanced copy?” One lady even said she would gladly pay for a copy of my manuscript because she needs help NOW! (lol)

Every woman has a uniqueness that’s all her own. In this book, I teach you how to use your God given ability to get that special man to put that ring on your finger in 365 days or less.

This book was inspired by you, my readers who sent countless emails and letters asking for advice on how to convince your man to commit to marriage. And before you start thinking that this book is all about sex, it’s not. A smart woman knows that sex alone will not make a man want to marry you. I don’t care how good it is. (lol)

Most any woman can find a man who’ll have sex with her, but the real test is, will he marry you? After applying the principles in my book, he will!

But don’t take my word for it . . .

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"A few years ago, I was having problems with my boyfriend. He was giving me the hot and cold treatment. One day he was into me, (literally) then I wouldn’t hear from him for weeks. I decided to move to the coast to get away from him and see if it would make him recognize his true feelings for me. I thought it was working because he would call me and ask me to come see him on my days off. I was weak for him, so I had no problem making the 3 ½ hour drive back home just to be with him. But when I got there he’d tell me that we would have to get together later because he’d already made other plans with his buddies. I would spend the remainder of my weekend with my folks.
Glenda and I worked together, and I told her about my problems after one of my disappointing visits. She told me exactly what to do, and how to do it. I was prepared to write my boyfriend off because I was so sure her advice was never going to have any effect on him. However, within the next three weeks he was making the 3 ½ hour drive to come see me. We celebrated our one year wedding anniversary this past February!

Glenda knows what she’s talking about" . . . Danielle
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When I gave Danielle this advice three years ago, I had yet to begin writing my book. I spoke what I knew and practiced every day in my own relationships. I didn’t give her any crazy ideas or complicated theories.
Danielle is just one of many women who have experienced success in getting her man to put that ring on her finger, by learning what works. My principles will work for any woman. Even YOU!

Thanks Danielle!

Does Lesbianism Stem From A Woman's Lack of Sexual Satisfaction From A Man?

A friend sent this message to my inbox a few days ago.

READER:

Hey,Glenda
girl i just want to know why do men get right up after cumming . Okay, I'm like, what about me? I mean this has been going on for a while...he better get his act together or I will need therapy .

MY REPLY:

Girl, you are so crazy! Okay, for real...what's going on?

Most of the time, it seems that some men only think about themselves when it comes to sex. Initially when he's trying to get you, his main focus is in pleasing you, but after you've been together for awhile it seems that he only thinks of himself. Most women enjoy the snuggling and cuddling after sex, most men would rather fall asleep!
So what's going on with you two? What do you mean when you say he gets right up after cumming?

READER:

It seems like every time he's finish cumming its over. I don't care how long it takes, it doesn't matter that I haven't gotten mines, it's like what about me and my orgasm? This has being going on for years. I just can't keep doing this.
They say that when a man ejaculates it takes his energy and he's tired. But girl if he keeps on doing this I don't know what I'm going to do. I think this is why so many women are lesbians.

MY REPLY:

Wow...Have you talked to him about it? And what does he say?

READER:

same o same o

MY REPLY:

Without knowing all the details, at this point I would suggest communicating to him exactly how you feel and why you feel as you do.
Hopefully, verbally expressing your needs to him will encourage him to take note and be more considerate to your needs!

I hope everything works out for you!
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At some point during a relationship, many couples experience problems with sexual intimacy. I addressed a similar issue in my blog (To Viagra or NOT To Viagra) a few months ago.Most women enjoy sex and view sexual intimacy as an extremely important part of a relationship.
Ladies and gentlemen, I'd like to know what you think! And men, feel free to answer this young ladies question. (lol)

How would you suggest this young lady handle her problem?

Do you feel that lesbianism stems from a woman's lack of sexual satisfaction from a man?

UPDATE**** I originally posted this blog on MySpace and got many interesting answers. Here are just a few...

*) IT IS A PERSONAL CHOICE, NOT DUE TO A MAN'S INFLUENCE...GREAT POST!...(posted by female reader)

*) What's up G!! Homosexuality is not a perfect design. It is a good thing gone bad. For males and females alike. I believe that men should have been taught by their mothers and aunts on this subject. On what women need and want from a man. Instead of leaving us guessing, and trying to figure it out. However, there are some who do know, and are willing to let you get yours first, and then we will proceed to our climax. There are some who care about the happiness of others.(posted by Terrence)

*) sexual dissatisfaction has nothing to do with a woman’s sexual orientation. It may be frustrating to her but that is about it. (posted by Shani) *) MY EX HUSBAND WAS LIKE THIS HE WOULD CUM AND I WAS LEFT LIKE WHAT ABOUT ME. I WOULD GO IN THE BATHROOM AND DO IT MYSELF. I DON'T THINK IT'S THE REASON TO BECOME A LESBIAN. THATS A PERSONAL CHOICE.GREAT BLOG (posted by Brenda)

*) I think there would be a would between lack of satisfaction with a man to trying to find it with a woman but then again I also think very much that attraction is a major thing. If this young lady feels some attraction for other women then by all means, experiment- you're still young, however if you're not attracted to women, talk to your man or find a new one! And honey you're not alone! Alot alot of men (and I mean alooot) are quite selfish in bed and honestly I either address the situation or leave before it becomes an issue. If your lover cannot satisfy your needs and you feel this hurt by it all, you definately need to speak up and take a stand. All the best =] (posted by MissIntegrityNil)

*) Hey Glenda! I know I'm late, but I always am..lol! I actually know 2 women that were with men, but because of how they were treated by them (their words), they decided enough was enough and decided to deal with women exclusively. I don't know if they were bi beforehand.
I think if a man truly led a woman to another woman there were more issues than just bad sex. We all have had bad sex, but eventually if you're lucky, u find someone to satisfy u.
Bad sex has never made me want to go be with a woman. She needs to be direct and tell him straight out that him cumming and rollin over going to sleep is for the birds and he needs to get it together.

I would think that he would feel really stupid the next time they had sex if he didn't accomplish bringing her to the big O, if he cares at all. For your friend's sake, I truly hope she gets hers soon. Nothing worse than pent up Os.:) (posted by Candy Cane)

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Fake A$$ Relationships!

Fake a$$ Relationships...

What does it mean to be in a real relationship anyway? Many people like to be able to say that they are in a relationship, but they don't fully understand that being in a relationship includes someone else other than self. What happened to the day of a man having his woman's back just as she has his. (And vice versa)
It seems that the first time one party does something that displeases the other party, somebody's ready to bail . . . giving and taking their shit back.

And what about love? People use the word too casually when they may not fully understand the concept of love and what it means to love someone. Sure it sounds good to say to someone I love you, but what about meaning it?
I have a problem with people (men) messing up and then saying "I'm sorry" like by saying those words it makes the situation okay. Sure it might work the first couple of times but when you continue the same behavior, at some point, I'm going to get tired of hearing "I'm sorry" because it loses its effectiveness.

I decided to address this issue because of the many emails that I receive every day from people (men and women) who have the most insignificant problems within their relationship, yet for some couples, the insignificant things are causing the most problems within the relationship.
Most people will tell you that those problems can be avoided by effectively communicating to your partner what your needs are, but what about when he or she doesn't listen? Or they are so caught up in their own world, they can't hear you? How do you handle the situation when the one you love won't listen?

I have addressed so many blogs about the causes of cheating in relationships and I fully understand why most people choose to cheat. Although I've never done it, it has crossed my mind many times. When a woman feels that she's not valued it's easy for her to go and find someone else who gives the affection, attention and sexual satisfaction that she may be missing in her relationship with her man, but she will continue to stay with that man because she may love him and hope that he'll eventually get it together and make the necessary changes.

You see, I've never felt compelled to wait on anyone to change, I know that when a person is set in their ways, change rarely ever occurs. So rather than cheat, I end the relationship.

Successful relationships require work on the part of both individuals involved. If one party is working toward a successful relationship and the other just doesn't care, the relationship is destined to fail.

A few days ago, a girlfriend asked me "Why should I have to make my relationship work? I don't want to make it work. It should just work!"

Awhile back, a male friend said to me "I don't feel my woman appreciates me . . . when I get home she doesn't give me the proper greeting that I expect. Yesterday I walked in as she was vacuuming the floor, she came so close that the vacuum actually hit my shoe, but instead of reaching over and giving me a kiss as I came through the door, she finished the entire room before she even looked up and acknowledged that I was there. Where is the love in that? How can I feel appreciated?"

I hear these type comments all day, every day. I guess people tell me their problems and ask for my opinion based on my writing. But what most people don't understand is that I'm human and I have my own problems with relationships. Just because someone talks about relationship problems or writes about it, doesn't exempt them from having problems in their relationship. Do you think Dr. Phil doesn't have problems with his relationship/marriage?

Just to show you what I mean, a few years ago I got into a conversation with a guest playing at my blackjack table. He was an extremely attractive Caucasian male, in his late forties, maybe early fifties, everything about him was attractive; his manner of speaking, his gestures . . . he naturally exuded sexiness. Anyway, as we began talking, he told me that he was a psychologist who practiced family psychotherapy in Miami. I told him that I thought what he did for a living was so cool. Then he said "yeah, well try telling people that you counsel about their relationships that your wife just left you for another man." (Wow!)

All that to say this, I don't think some people will ever truly understand what makes relationships work. And even if you do recognize and understand what it takes to make a relationship work, doesn't necessarily mean that you will find that mate who is willing to work with you. However, there are many couples out there who are in relationships that work.
So I want to ask all of you to share your ideas about what it takes to make a relationship work/last.

Here are my ideas!

What does it take to make a relationship work/last?

1.) Common interests. (Something other than sex)

2.) Can you relate/communicate with each other outside of the bedroom?

3.) Having similar beliefs and values.

4.) Trust (Can you trust that individual not to hurt you? Either physically, verbally and/or emotionally)

5.) Loyalty

6.) Similar lifestyles

7.) Spiritual background

8.) A willingness to accept your partner unconditionally (flaws and all)

9.) Sense of humor (being able to laugh together)

To Viagra or "Not" To Viagra!

Recently at one of our girl’s night out functions, a close friend broke down and revealed that her man was experiencing difficulties with "Erectile Dysfunction" and wanted to know what she should do about her man’s impotence. She states that no matter what she does he can’t maintain an erection.

This led to an in-depth conversation about the sexual performances of men.
Most women have encountered men with some type of sexual problem at some point.
A man’s age is inconsequential in determining whether or not a man will experience some form of an erectile dysfunction. I know this from firsthand experience because it was the cause of the demise of my first marriage.

Men have it harder than we (women) do because they have to be able to perform. For a woman it’s different . . . we can be stressed, not feeling well, and all we have to do is grab the lubricant and it’s all good!
Men can’t fake it or force themselves to perform. And there are many factors that contribute to impotence. Stress, illness, fatigue, just to name a few.
But oftentimes, women are quick to blame themselves for her man’s shortcoming. She may think that maybe he is not attracted to her anymore, or maybe he’s having an affair.

Sometime women fail to realize that men are also experiencing strong emotions associate with ED. They too have feelings of inadequacy at not being able to satisfy his woman and may feel that because of this she might go out and find someone who can satisfy her sexual needs!

This was the belief of my first ex husband, in his case it was premature ejaculation, which caused him to become so suspicious that he became like a prison warden . . . if I left home for any reason he would follow me. His emotional state of mind caused him to become physically and verbally abusive. I eventually got tired of constantly trying to reassure him that no matter what the problem was I wasn’t going to cheat and I ultimately ended the marriage.
So understand that there are many emotions associated with ED.

Now what can be done about it!

Today women want a quick fix to the problem. They are quick to suggest to her partner that he go to a doctor and get a supply of blue pills. Twenty years ago during my first marriage Viagra didn’t exist but it is readily available today just by visiting your doctor.

Now in my friends case, she states that her man won’t admit that he has a problem and his pride refuses to allow him to consult with a doctor. She said that when she suggested Viagra he responded, "I’m 43 years-old and healthy, there is nothing wrong with me!"

Men, if you have a medical condition that prevents you from taking Viagra, then I do understand your unwillingness to try it. But understand that you are depriving your woman of pleasure which is bound to lead to problems during the relationship or marriage.

Just the use of a simple drug, which is safe, easy to use and effective could possibly save your marriage or relationship! (Just something to think about!)

How Do I Get Over A Broken Heart?...

I received an e-mail from a woman who was clearly in distress. So much so, that I could feel her pain through her words!!!
Her man broke off their relationship and didn't give a reason why! She wants to know "How do I get over a broken heart?"...I decided to answer this e-mail by blog because I feel her pain...ladies and gentlemen, if you have some ideas, feel free to comment!
There is never an easy way to accept that a relationship is truly over. Especially if you're not the one wanting it to end, OR if you're not even sure WHY it's ending.When someone breaks up with you it helps to know what went wrong. It is a hurtful feeling when one party thinks that the relationship is fine only to discover that their mate wants out.

A woman needs closure when a man breaks it off with her. She needs to know "what did she do" to cause this person to not want a relationship with her anymore. Unfortunately, sometimes we don't get that closure.

Women share a common bond. We have all at some point in our lives been hurt by a man. It does not matter how pretty or how skinny you are. Skinny girls get hurt just like the big girls. Some of the most beautiful women in the world have been betrayed in a relationship. So when you are going through emotional heartache, know that you are not alone. What is important is how you handle that heartache.
It's perfectly normal to suffer from low self-esteem or lack of self-confidence after a break up. We all do. Ultimately, you have to learn to heal yourself in order to get over a broken heart! There is no weakness in crying or displaying anger. Cry, throw things, do whatever it takes to get it out of your system. Recognize that grieving is essential to healing and it is okay to grieve when you lose someone you love. Then pick yourself up and begin your healing.
I don't care if you have eight kids and weigh three hundred pounds. You must begin by seeing the beauty in you.We relate to movies and stories that deal with infidelity because for most women, when we have been hurt by a man we indulge in overeating, excessive alcohol consumption and negative thinking; all of which is self-destructive behavior.
The healing process takes time, but there are things that you can do to help speed up the process. (details in "I Need Therapy") The quicker you accept that it's over and get on with your life, the better. Don't waste time hoping he'll change his mind and come back.
Afterall, do you really want him back? Think about it, if he can be so insensitive to your feelings and needs why would you accept him back?...some excerpts taken from "I Need Therapy"...

Copyright (c) 2006 I Need Therapy~ Glenda A. Wallace

How to Get the Man "You" Want to Marry You!

Sounds too good to be true? Well it’s not!
There is a misconception that men naturally resist commitment. This is so untrue. I have never met a man who wouldn’t commit, yet I receive emails daily from women asking for advice on how to convince their man to commit.

I get very different reactions from men and women when I tell them I have been married five times and I’ve also had 18 marriage proposals.
Most men are intrigued; they want to know what it is about me that made five men want to make me their wife.
Women are curious; they want to know what did I do and how I did it, in order to get five men to make a commitment to marriage.

I often hear from women who say, "I can’t get one man to marry me, and you’ve had five! Is there something wrong with me? Is there something I’m not doing right?"

Just because you’re not married and have never been proposed to, doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you. You may not be aware of what men are looking for when selecting a wife. Half the time, men don’t know what they are looking for in a wife until it’s staring them in the face.

The truth is, most men are not commitment phobic. Fact is, a man will commit when he finds what he’s looking for. He may be with you, but may not want a life long commitment with you. Whereas, he may break up with you and marry the next woman he gets involved with.
I didn’t get five husbands and 18 marriage proposals because I’m cute . . . in fact, I’m quite ordinary in the look’s department.

The men that I’ve been in relationships with usually start discussing marriage within the first three months, without me ever bringing up the subject, dropping hints, or leaving wedding planner guides on the coffee table.
My friends always asked me, "how was I doing it?" Getting a man to commit was never easy for some of them until they used the principles in my book (I Need Therapy) to change their way of thinking. Now most of them are happily married as well!

The key to getting a man to want to make you his wife is quite simple. You must be the woman he wants to marry. You must possess those qualities that he’s looking to find in a wife.

He needs to feel that by getting married to you his life will ultimately improve. Therefore, you need to provide a benefit for him that he wouldn’t have without you.

So, if you’re looking for commitment or marriage, you must be the woman he’s looking for, and you do this by simply working on you. This does not mean to change who you are, and become someone you’re not, but if what you’re doing is not working, then try something different!
In order for a man to see the good in you, someone he’d want to make his wife and share the rest of his life with, you must first see it in yourself. Men are attracted to confident, sexy women. When you love yourself, it shows in everything that you do.

There are several key elements that a man looks for in a wife, (they are all outlined in detail in my book) but the most important thing that will almost always guarantee a husband, is to make your man feel like the man, which for them is the greatest feeling in the world . . . to be recognized and appreciated for who they are, MEN!
You have to know what he wants and needs, and sometimes in order to achieve the results you want, you have to make him feel as if it was his idea.

HAPPY HUNTING LADIES! (Lol)

Chapter excerpt ~ How to Get the Man You Want to Marry You, taken from ~ I Need Therapy
Copyright © 2006 Glenda A. Wallace

What Men Really Want! (**REPOST**...my most popular blog ever)

Hey folks...
Seems like I started something with that "Naughty Bawdy Ten" blog that I posted yesterday. lol
I was hit with so many messages to my inbox by women (young and old) who wanted to give me props for being real enough to represent what sexiness is all about. Some of you stated that you could never be that bold.
Seems like somewhere along the way, some people had the misconception that I was this sweet, innocent little girl writing about relationships.
Just to set the record straight, I don't write about what I don't know about. Those of you who have already read my book know this.

I decided to post this blog as a follow up to discuss certain issues that women tend to have problems with in relationships. All of this information is already addressed in my book.
When I first started interviewing men for 'I Need Therapy' back in the 80's. My original mission was to find out what caught a man's attention about women.
I wanted to know what their wants, needs and desires were within a relationship...I found that men are more than happy to tell you what he looks for in a woman, if you ask...
I wanted to know this information because I wanted to be the best woman that I could be for my potential man. At the time I was 19 years-old and never had an intimate relationship with a man. (Yeah, I was an old virgin)
All of this information that I was getting was extremely helpful to me...as I interviewed ALL men...black, white, Hispanic, Asian, young and old, it didn't matter...I was on a mission, I wanted answers and I was taking notes.

From all the information that I gathered, it all boiled down to SEXUALITY!!! When you ask a man what he looks for and wants in a woman his answers are very different than if you ask this same question to women about what they look for in a man.
Men lean towards the sexual side, and women lean more towards security. We won't get into the differences between men and women. But I do think it's important that we address some issues that could potentially save some relationships.
I know that there are many of you living in loveless, sexless, relationships and/or marriages who sit at home and watch Dr. Phil or run out and buy our books to learn how to "fix" your relationship. Although I consider myself to be a relationship author, the primary focus of my book is to educate you on how to fix YOU!!! Hence the title "I Need Therapy." This applies to men as well as women.

Just the other day I was having a conversation with a man who claims that his wife is sexually repressed. "She doesn't want me to go down on her because she thinks it's gross. She doesn't enjoy sex at all...so in order to get her to do it, I have to go out and buy her some outrageously expensive gift and then she only gives me repayment sex." he said. "She repays me for my expensive gifts by just laying there and letting me have my way with her. She always has this very bored expression on her face and I can tell she really just wants me to hurry up and get it over with. Asking her to go down on me is out of the question, that shit has only happened twice in the four years that we've been married, then she run to the bathroom and drinks a bottle of mouthwash."
I laughed, for I though this was so funny, yet it's common, this was the main concern that men expressed their displeasure with about the women in their lives.
Most women want to know what makes me the expert on the subjects that I discuss...
Well, I didn't get 5 husbands and 18 marriage proposals because I'm cute, I did it by taking the time to educate myself on what men really want in their relationships. (being intelligent, independent, etc, also helps) lol
Everyday I get messages and email from women who ask me, "what am I doing wrong in my relationship?"I decided to post this blog so that we can have a quick class on WHAT MEN REALLY WANT!!!(this is just the basics)
For all of you "shy" women who hit up my inbox wanting to know how I could be so open about my sexuality, I had to post this especially for you. Most of the comments that I received had to do with the answers to my "Naughty Bawdy Ten" blog. So this is where I will start...

1) I am a master masturbator...
I will often masturbate in front of my man. I get off on the expression on his face...this also shows him what I like and how I like to be touched. Men learn so much more by watching than listening...

Men are visual creatures by nature, which is why I say that they learn so much more by watching than listening. In the past I could tell a man until I was blue in the face, what I wanted, and how I wanted it. (I'm definitely not a shy woman) I could even take his hand and guide it to the spot and display (using his hand) how I wanted to be touched but as soon as I released his hand, within a few minutes he'd be right back to jabbing and grinding his fingers inside me like he was searching for gold!!! OUCH!!!
It's amazing how after I pleasured myself in front of him, his whole approach changed. Later I would ask him why the change? He said "you've never had such a powerful orgasm with me at any time. I had to learn because I can't let you out do me!!!"...
As I said, allow your man to watch and learn.

For years I have been interviewing men, looking to find what is really important to them in a relationship. The most popular response was good sex.The complaints range from women not knowing or willing to perform oral sex to THEIR satisfaction, to not getting enough sex. Some even complained that their women had let themselves go and were simply NOT SEXY ENOUGH!When I asked most married men or men who were in a committed relationship what their women wore to bed, the highest percentage said (and not very happily) shorts and a tee shirt.
Ladies, I know shorts and tee shirts are comfortable, but have you really looked at yourself lately or do you just jump into bed? I suggest that the next time you get dressed for bed, take a long, hard look in the mirror. What you see is probably a lot less appealing to your man.

8) I own a lingerie closet...
You see shorts and tee shirts for me, are NOT comfortable. I'm in my sexy attire nightly...even when I'm sleeping alone. And we won't even discuss those nasty ass rags that women wear on their heads, you gotta go to the book for that info. (or we could be here all day)
We already know that men live for fantasy. They go to strip clubs, watch porn; they live for fantasy.You should incorporate a little bit of fantasy into your everyday life.

9) I get wet by orally pleasing my man...
One of the greatest sexual acts for a man is oral sex. If you are good at performing this act, you won't have to worry about anything. I have yet to hear any man say that he doesn't like the feel of his woman's mouth on his manhood, even if she's not good at it.Men define "not good at it" as a lack of enthusiasm. In a sexual relationship, enthusiasm alone can turn a lack-luster experience into a mind-blowing experience.
There is an art to being good at orally satisfying a man. However, if you don't enjoy it, you'd better believe your man will know. So in order to keep a sexually fulfilled man, don't just act like you enjoy it, learn to enjoy it.
Turning a man on orally is a powerful and gratifying feeling. You are in total control. Ask your man to share with you what he wants and what feels good to him. Every man is different and what feels good to one may not be as enjoyable to another. Men are much less complicated than women and can be pleased quite easily once you know what they want...
All right ladies, I hope you enjoyed the preview...now do something with it!!!
Fellas, if I left anything out feel free to let me know!